I sit back and think to myself that chale man dey grow. Pressure dey everywhere. You dont even know what to do but you dey inside, u for survive. That’s where everything has come to seem like for my eyes top. I am just ‘deeping’ how I can get skills and apply them to create meaningful and innovative solutions to make life easier.
It has not been easy. I am twenty seven and already wishing to be in Heaven. I have been cruising along into my late 20s and now getting closer to the big 30 which is almost too unbelievable to admit. I am grateful to God for the life given and appreciative of His Grace and Mercies.
I am reflecting on the new age and realizing how I love my Parents so dearly. The love extended to my siblings, their children and to the rest of you outside the four corners of my humble abode. I love you and even if you detest me, I will still pray for your happiness and peace of mind. I am just hoping to make quality time for the things that matter in my life. Things such as being present when prioritized matters are concerned.
I have overtime learned to schedule the hours on a daily basis to increase my productivity. I am still learning and I have come to see that things take time. You only need to be disciplined and consistent with practice. I have come to see that there is beauty in the struggle. You won’t get what you envision in your head in just one day. The tree does not grow in one night. Perhaps the Father’s son took three days to come back alive and that’s divine which makes me consider: Just how powerful are we? Once I exceed my potentials, who do I become?
Turning 27 and I feel like I am still young enough that if i feel like an aimless mess who is not satisfied with where my life is at, I can still justifiably blame being young and still figuring shit out.
At the same time I feel like I am old enough to feel a real sense of ownership over my adulthood. It’s no longer brand new anymore being a grown up. With a few years under my belt I kinda know some shit. At least I am recognizing my career path and figuring out which parts of my life are imperfect as a result of normal trial and error and which might be me somehow sabotaging myself.
I am slowly moving past the clouds of confusion and finally beginning to figure out my life, my purpose and where it is that I belong in the world. Learning to deal with constant chaos of life and growing from it.
I have also been thinking about whether or not I want to find the one, and what kind of person that might be. I look back on past failed relationship and methodically take stock of what went wrong, what was my fault?
God willing, I know I have many years of wonderful single life ahead of me but I am tired of wasting energy on relationships that ultimately are going nowhere and are more trouble than they’re worth even as flings.
Reaching 27 is the age to stop self-destructing and I thought I will write 27 things to my younger self. Lessons learned so far that have significant breakthroughs.
- love is very important. Love is patient and as strong as death. Love makes me feel good about myself which brings me to
- self acceptance. This is very important. You need to stop worrying about what others think of you. Just do you. People will not like you whether you are doing good or bad. So why don’t you just not live a wretched lifestyle rather live good. Enjoy your company. Keep yourself clean. Accept your flaws and embrace your quirks.
- I PREFER quality over quantity in the relationships. Looking back I have enjoyed very quality time with dear ones I cherish deeply in my heart. Proximity and time has brought distance and yet I reminisce about some moments shared and I am elated in my core. Some people come into our lives and help us upgrade to be better people. Those are the ones I filter in the crowd for and keep close to me.
- no one has their shit totally figured out. People are living life with no rehearsals. You need not stress yourself by thinking someone has got it on lock. Pay attention to your craft and mind your business.
- you have to do things that you don’t want to do. There is magic in the work you have been avoiding.
- we all need to open up more and be given the platform to do so. Don’t be shy. Take every moment given as if you are on a stage putting on a show for God.
- quarter life crisis is a thing. I thought I’d die before I got to 25 but here I am past the quarter life age and still alive. It only gets better with time. Work hard towards the dream.
- there are so many career options. Don’t fret and panic like you are useless and cannot discover your talent or passion to know what career path to take. Enjoy yourself while you live and you just might stumble on what is meant for you.
- introverts need interaction. I am an extrovert by nature and I consider this when I meet introverts. I try my best to make the space comfortable for quality conversations. You can discover a lot getting introverts to talk to you.
- growth does happen outside the comfort zone.
- confidence will get you everywhere
- your 20s should be about exploring and experimenting.
- make time for yourself. just be alone and think.
- many of us are naturally generalists/multipotentialites/scanners rather than specialists. Learn your craft dearly and become a master at it.
- money determines happiness to a certain extent however
- money does buy happiness
- money is better spent on experiences rather than things
- Minimalism is probably interesting and good for us.
- think about your dream job and start making a plan and working towards it.
- perfect at least one meal in the kitchen.
- the top of Maslow’s hierarchy is becoming more important in the western world. Self actualization.
- you are the average of the five people you spend your time with.
- your parents are the best people in your life. don’t forget to tell them you love them everyday.
- societal, parental, all expectations can be felt massively. Don’t give in. Stay true to yourself.
- we are all human beings and we really are not so different from another. Try to be nice to your neighbor
- the best is yet to come.
- you will lose friends but in the process, you will discover who your real friends are.
I just look forward to the many possibilities and blessings coming my way and I pray I make the right choices along every step being directed by the wisdom of God.